I don't know if I will ever forget the first time I was exposed to a true-blue feminist. It was in college, BYU-I. You know, the Mormon college where the underground crowd drinks alcohol in measured doses and it is almost a sin to vote democrat (for the record, I'm not either Republican or Democrat, I think they are both screwed up).
I don't remember her name and I only vaguely recall what she looked like. She married one of my best friends, however. We had looked at being business partners, we shared common interests of the outdoors and life's goals. I was even his best man at their wedding.
Shortly after they were wed, we were having dinner at our house. By this point in time, I had resolved to commission in the Marine Corps after graduating and she asked my opinion on women in combat. It was and still is that they do not belong there. Truthfully, no one belongs there, but if someone has to be there, it ought to be men.
Instantly, we went from a casual meeting amongst friends to her shrieking at me while informing me that I was a chauvinist pig. My friend, her husband, seemed embarrassed and he got her to settle down. Were it not for my respect of him, I would have discharged them both from my home without any regard to their emotions. The evening ended awkwardly and I never saw my friend again - I guess she didn't approve of me...
My wife ran into her a few days later and she accused my wife of being brainwashed and a victim of patriarchal abuse because my wife shared(s) my opinion on women in combat.
True, it would be obtuse to use one anecdotal example to color an entire movement. But, it has been almost a decade later and I have never met a feminist that has challenged my first impression. Instead, they reinforce it. Now, I know that the modern feminist are largely becoming a joke and there are many articles regarding how they hate men. Something I have noticed in the past couple of years, however, is that they really hate women.
Self Image & Esteem
Look at their favorite spokes(people?) like Beyonce. She makes a living by writhing around on a stage like a prostitute for fame and money. Where do you think young women get their issues with self acceptance and modesty? From the defamed "religious right" or people that are so narcissistic that they will sell their body to make money and gain control? Oh wait, I meant to say work on their strengths and grow their talents to perform on stage...
But this is the issue, my daughter will always be my pretty princess - yet somehow I am a chauvinist for labeling her as such and damaging her. I don't get it, I truly don't. My wife and I will have to reassure our daughter in the coming years that she is beautiful and that her modesty and self respect (talking chastity here...) are signs of a self-assured, daughter of God while these feminists attack that foundation.
They will tell my daughter that she is not pretty enough because she doesn't dress and act like the Beyonce's of the world. They will tell her that I rule her life by preventing her from living a life of sexual promiscuity. They will tell her to turn on my wife and me due to our support of an "archaic patriarchal" order. How is this a good and positive message?
Why can't they let my daughter be?
Goose, meet gander
Also, consider the question of women in combat. First off, most women don't want to be in combat roles. Yes, you will find the few with daddy issues that blare Beyonce and want to prove how powerful they are by beating up a bunch of guys, but for the normal gal - not so much. What are the implications if they win this legal fight? Equality? Doubt it given that women are genetically different than men. What will happen, however, is that they will reach a legal equality that comes with severe implications for all women in the US: the draft.
You see, along with this twisted male thought process comes a protection for the daughters in America in that they do not qualify for the draft. This is not due to the benevolence of the government, oh no, it is due to them not qualifying to be in every billet in the military. So, because a few shrieking banshees want this so-called equality, they will force my daughter to qualify for a draft. I don't want any of my kids to register, but at least right now, my daughter is protected from it.
They do not represent the majority of women in the US, yet their actions will have impacts on every woman in America. Every woman in America could potentially be drafted into the military to serve in any role. That's right, the prom queen - that really scrawny gal that thinks walking between classes is a work out - might have to hump around over a hundred pounds worth of gear.
Yeah, that will show America what a real woman looks like... Oh yeah, every Marine female officer passes a hike more strenuous than what that weak lady did. Go Army??? So yeah, if this whole "Army Strong" concept is hard on women, do you really wanna try the Marine Corps requirements?
Again, why can't they let my daughter be?
Life Aspirations & Values
Then, there is this concept of life aspirations and goals. My wife has been under-valued and belittled by feminists for years. They blame her for their inability to obtain their life goals because she has chosen to be a homemaker. She has been accused of being mentally unstable, incompetent, shallow, and so on because she chose to be a wife and mother first in life.
First off, you have to find it hilarious that a group of catty women proclaiming to advocate the ability for women to choose and fulfill life goals will attack a woman for doing that. If that were truly the case, women would be equal in their choices - whether that was being a homemaker or the powerhouse woman of the 90's that has no family (or memory of the guy that pounded her last night) but is CEO of some company.
Herein lies the problem. This is the most terrifying statement to a feminist: the position they started with could be equal (or greater) than the one they are demanding. Oh my gosh! You mean that women were not under-valued when they were homemakers? Then what is all the fuss over...? So, clearly they can't support my wife - my wife has to be proven as invalid, a failure, or a sell out. Otherwise, their whole mission and campaign is revealed with what it is - a bunch of discontent women that either can't get a man's attention or were burned by a bad one.
I was at a social dinner with my colleagues a few years ago and there was a staunch feminist there. She is one of 15 or so people in her type of a role - in a company of 260,000 - that is saying something. Her skill set is highly sought after and she probably makes around $500,000 before bonus. Essentially, she is very successful.
While we discussed random topics, motherhood came up. She was the first to chime in and it was very negative. She declared how housewives are a detriment to feminism and an insult to real women who go and make a difference. One of the men there (a gay guy who had adopted two kids with his partner and his partner stayed at home to take care of them) asked her how she managed to raise her children. She dismissed any questions regarding her troublesome offspring.
I remember at one point he made the point that someone has to watch and care for the kids - even if it is a nanny. She simply reiterated herself that housewives are unambitious failures. She sulked in silence after the topic changed, brooding sourly over her wine.
Sadly, we have decades of proof from very successful men that state they wished they had spent more time with the family and friends. They find themselves alone with all those zeroes they spent their life accumulating. Now, as the mindset slowly begins to shift back to family for many working men, women are charging in to re-make the same mistake - but better! You know what, my wife is proud to be a mother. She is doing the one thing that a man can never do. She is embracing herself as a woman and all that is feminine by doing so.
The Answer
So, why can't they leave my wife and daughter alone? Simple, they are well-adjusted ladies. They embrace and celebrate what it means to be feminine - they are everything a feminist cannot be. That is why feminists hate my wife and daughter more than they will ever hate me.
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